i have a question.
a lot of my friends do drugs. and drink. and maybe don't really think twice about it.
so as a person who doesn't believe in these things, what should i do about it?
i know that a lot of times it's just a social thing to do.
but i also know that they've all had their share of problems and things that they may or may not want to push away by using drugs as their vice.
and i believe in better ways.
i am scared they will get hurt.
or get addicted.
or do something they'll regret.
i don't condemn them for the choices they make.
i hope i don't judge them.
but maybe i am judging them right now.
i just need to know how i should deal with this.
because, you know that killing vs. letting die thing?
well i think letting die is just as bad as killing.
what if that's what i'm doing?
i'm just letting this get worse and worse and whatever happens, the fault will be just as much on me.
so i feel like i need to do something.
but what?
what is there to do?
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i agree on the letting it die is just as bad as killing. i brought that up when i tried to confront a friend last night, but that was over a much less serious topic. I was just using it as an example. maybe you should confront them about it.
i'll try to think about this more.. and maybe i'll ask at youth group sometime to see what other people think.
It doesn't sound like to me that you are judging them alice. And that's a really good question you're asking. I'm not sure if I know how to answer. I've never experienced that with any of my friends. I hope I would be brave enough to confront them about it, to let them know that I think what they're doing is wrong. Or maybe not wrong, just not right. but I'm not sure I would be. And that might not even be the right thing to do.
So I'm not much help I guess. But at the very least I know I would want them to know how I felt about what they were doing. That I was scared for them.
oh!
i forgot.. i was gonna mention judging. there is nothing wrong with 'judging people'.. you should look and see that there are things that could hurt them. but judging and then using that against them.. like pre-judging is wrong. sorry i didn't explain that well.
thanks for responding, guys. :)
chrissy: i'm not sure that this is that serious, though. i mean, i'm probably just thinking it's not because i know it happens so often and to people that i know, that it's slowly digressed into just a normal part of life. and maybe it is?
and thanks for mentioning that judging thing, i guess you are right.
melissa: yeah..it's just i am sure they wouldn't listen to me. i mean, i've made it clear that i don't do those kinds of things and i think they respect that and don't find anything wrong with it. and i can't keep them from doing what they want to do. maybe all i can do is let them know that i do believe in a better way and if they ever do come to me when something goes wrong, i can help them find that better way.
or maybe that's just a cop-out?
i don't know...
i see where you're coming from and honestly, i can't give you any help. i tried to talk to my best friend about the people she was hanging out with and the bad habits that she was developing. we barely talk anymore. i thought i was doing the right thing to tell her that the people she was with are bad news and just to be careful while she's around them. not i think she doesn't do some drugs. it kills me think if she does or not. i'm just at the point that i hope she's happy and at least trying to make some good choices. i wish i could do something else, tell her something that will knock her out of this stage that she's at.
i mean she isn't the only friend that i have that does drugs and drinks. i mean almost all of them does one or the other if not both. it's just she was my best friend, i cared for her that much more.
i guess what i'm trying to say is if you see that there could be reasons behind their use, try to talk to them, show that there is someone that they can talk to and is willing to listen to them talk. but then again like you said, some people do do it socially.
alright don't know if that was the question you wanted answered if you even consider that answered but that's all you're getting out of me for now haha
lizzy, thanks for responding. it did help a bit. i think it is good that you did talk to her, and i hope that i can find the courage to do so as well, if needed.
you are brave.
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